A Three-Step Grief Ritual with Lapis Lazuli & Candlelight | Crystal Healing Blog

Grief is a sacred journey, a process of honoring what was lost while gently reclaiming our inner light. In moments of sorrow, crystals like Lapis Lazuli—the ancient stone of wisdom and truth—can become profound allies. Paired with the soft, transformative glow of candlelight, this three-step ritual offers a spiritual pathway to release, reflect, and renew.

Why Lapis Lazuli for Grief?

Known as the *Stone of Awareness*, Lapis Lazuli has been revered for millennia for its deep indigo hue flecked with golden pyrite. Metaphysically, it connects to the Third Eye and Throat Chakras, fostering clarity, emotional honesty, and the courage to speak one’s truth. For grief, Lapis helps:

• Unlock suppressed emotions trapped in the body
• Bring subconscious pain into conscious awareness
• Promote self-compassion during vulnerability

The Ritual: Candlelight, Courage, and Connection

What You’ll Need:

• Lapis Lazuli crystal (raw or polished)
• A blue or white candle (symbolizing peace and Spirit)
• Journal and pen
• Quiet, sacred space

Step 1: Illuminating the Darkness (Preparation)

Begin by creating a sanctuary. Light your candle and hold your Lapis Lazuli in your non-dominant hand (the receiving side). Close your eyes and breathe deeply, envisioning the candle’s flame as a beacon guiding fragmented pieces of your heart home. Recite aloud or silently:

"I invite light to soften my shadows. May this space hold my sorrow with grace."

Place the Lapis Lazuli over your heart or Third Eye. Feel its calming energy dissolve resistance, a reminder that grief is not meant to be carried alone—it is held by the Earth and stars.

Step 2: Writing to Release (Expression)

Under the candle’s glow, write a letter to your loss—a person, dream, or version of yourself. Let the Lapis Lazuli rest beside your journal; its energy will help you articulate raw, unfiltered truths. As you write, notice any judgments or guilt arising. Lapis’ golden pyrite sparks inner fortitude, whispering, "Your pain is valid. Your voice matters."

Step 3: Surrender to the Light (Ceremonial Closing)

Once your letter is complete, read it aloud to the flame. As the candle burns, visualize its light transmuting pain into acceptance. Place the Lapis Lazuli in front of the candle and recite:

"I release what no longer serves, trusting the Universe to hold what I cannot. I am worthy of peace."

Let the candle burn safely until it extinguishes naturally. Keep your Lapis Lazuli close in the days ahead—consider wearing it as jewelry, like this stretchy Lapis bracelet, to carry its soothing vibrations with you.

Supporting Your Journey Beyond the Ritual

Grief moves in waves. On days when sorrow feels heavy, complement your Lapis Lazuli with:

• Citrine: This solar stone (like the Citrine Fresh Flower Pendant) reignites hope and personal power.
• Black Phoenix Feather Quartz: A protective ally for rebirth, found in this Phoenix Feather Bracelet.

Closing Thoughts

Healing is not linear, but rituals like this remind us that even in darkness, we are never disconnected from love. Lapis Lazuli, with its cosmic blue depths, teaches us that grief is not an end—it is a bridge to deeper authenticity. May this practice bring you gentle moments of clarity, and may your heart find solace in the light you carry within.

Share your journey with us in the comments, or tag us with your ritual setup. Remember: You are held, you are whole, and you are healing.